Sooner or later, most men run into problems that put a strain on their marriage — and if left unchecked, those problems can end it. But here’s the good news: keeping your marriage strong, even in the middle of a crisis, is absolutely within your power.
Gerald Rogers found this out the hard way. The day after his divorce was finalized, he sat down and wrote a Facebook post listing everything he wished he’d done differently — and it went viral, landing him a spot on the Today Show. At AdmiGram.com, we think his hard-won wisdom is worth sharing with every man out there. Love each other.
20 Awesome Tips on How to Strengthen Your Marriage
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1. Never stop courting her. The biggest mistake you can make is taking your wife for granted. Keep fighting for her heart the way you did when you first met.
2. Protect your heart — and hers. Guard your marriage from outside influences, and don’t let anyone else in where only she belongs.
3. Fall in love. Again and again. The love you felt at the start shouldn’t fade with time — it’s up to you to keep it alive.
4. Always look for the best in each other. Focus on what you love about her, not what irritates you.
5. Don’t try to change her. The biggest relationship mistake there is: trying to remake your partner. Your job is to love her, not fix her.
6. Take responsibility for your family’s happiness. When you’re happy, your wife is happy — and so is your whole family.
7. Your happiness is on you. Don’t wait for your marriage to make you happy. Show up for it already whole.
8. Handle your own baggage. Your wife isn’t a therapist for your childhood wounds. If you need help working through something, see a professional — your marriage will thank you for it.
9. Let her be a woman. When she’s in a bad mood, resist the urge to fix it. She doesn’t need solutions — she needs to know you’re there.
10. Don’t take yourself too seriously. You’re a man, not a superhero. Laugh more. Make her laugh, too — a little silliness goes a long way.
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11. Get to know her heart every day. Find out what makes her feel happy and secure, and make that a priority. Keep surprising her.
12. Be present. Really listen when she talks, without distractions — like she’s the most important person in the room. Because she is.
13. Embrace her femininity. Let yourself soften around her tenderness. Make sure she knows she can trust you completely.
14. Own your mistakes. Let her see you mess up sometimes — it makes it easier for her to feel safe being herself around you.
15. Give her space. Let her have time with friends and her own hobbies to recharge. Split the childcare so she actually gets a break.
16. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Share your fears with her. When you’re wrong, say so — and mean it.
17. Be completely honest with her. Let her all the way in. You can wear a mask for the rest of the world, but not at home.
18. Never stop growing together. A relationship that stands still starts to wither. Set shared goals and chase them side by side.
19. Handle money as a team. Trust her with the finances, and never hide money from her — it’s one of the fastest ways to break trust.
20. Forgive quickly. Learn from past mistakes, but don’t let them anchor you to the past. Keep your eyes on what’s ahead.
Bonus: Always choose love. It’s the one principle that can change everything — and give you a happiness that actually lasts.
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