If you hear this from your friend — go ahead and strike her off your list. If your parents are telling you this — it’s definitely time for you to live on your own. It’s time to grow up and listen only to your common sense, not others.
Especially when they try to implant the most horrible stereotypes into your mind, capable of completely and irreversibly ruining your life. AdmiGram.com warns against paying attention to certain advice given to girls, so as not to ruin your life completely.
5 most harmful pieces of advice for single girls
Advice #1
A girl can’t be alone. Why are you always alone? Go out, socialize!
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Many single women consider it their duty to attend various public events, parties, and dates as if it were a job. You have to meet someone! Today — it’s the opening of the exhibition. Tomorrow — Olivia’s party. The day after tomorrow — a meeting of a Facebook group at a cafe. No rest, no solitude! Otherwise, life will pass you by!
Remember, the most important encounter that should happen in your life is meeting yourself. Without meeting and understanding yourself, you won’t be able to find your happiness. Simply because you won’t have an idea of what happiness is for you. All these crowded parties, meetings, and excursions are, of course, good, but…
Find at least a few hours a week to be alone with yourself. Go to a pastry shop where you like the view from the window and the interior for yourself, not for your company, family, or your friend. Choose from the menu exactly what you want to try. Perhaps the most surprising discovery for you will be the fact that you have some desires separate from other people. The city park, quiet cafes, bike trails — these are all great places where you can get to know yourself.
Advice #2
Jacob is such a wonderful young man, and, most importantly, unmarried. You absolutely need to meet him.
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A single girl is single not because she still hasn’t met the wonderful Jacob. She’s single because for her own internal reasons, she’s not ready for a relationship with anyone. Not even with the wonderful Jacob, not even with Ryan Gosling himself.
A fateful encounter only happens when a person is ready for it. And arranging dates when they’re not asked for — is, once again, a violation of human dignity. Such “care” is not worth gratitude — it’s better to politely decline it and generally avoid such “caring” people in your environment.
Advice #3
The more time you spend with your girlfriends, the fewer chances you have of meeting the right man.
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Nonsense, nonsense, and nonsense again. Your girlfriends are not enemies, they are batteries from which you absorb positive female energy. It doesn’t matter if they’re married or not, if they have children — the main thing is that they look and feel like attractive women and have traditional female interests.
Invite into your life those girlfriends with whom you could engage in some traditionally feminine activities. This is what a single girl needs most of all. The main thing is that they are not some genderless creatures, indifferent to nail polish and designer shoes. And don’t let them bother you with talks like ‘why hasn’t he called?’
True friends are those with whom, after talking to them, you feel like an empowered woman. A woman who all your potential suitors would be willing to follow to the ends of the earth, forgetting about everything else.
Advice #4
Have a child for yourself.
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Every unmarried woman starting from the age of 30 hears this phrase periodically as she gets older, and the advice becomes more insistent. But let’s be honest: having a child ‘just for yourself’ is impossible. The child will always have half of his father in him, and there’s no getting around that.
A child has the right to know his father. He has every right to his surname, attention, property inheritance, communication not only with his father but also with all relatives on his side — grandmother, grandfather, stepbrothers, and stepsisters. Depriving a child of the right to know his father means committing a grave sin of lying.
It’s not by chance that God established such an order of things that one must first learn to be a wife and then a mother. Trying to become a mother without having the experience of married life is like enrolling in university without knowing how to read and write.
Advice #5
How can you complain!? Compared to (insert appropriate) your life is a Paradise on Earth!
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A very unpleasant rhetorical technique of stupid and malicious people who hide their cruelty and callousness under the guise of piety and decency. By saying this, they definitely don’t wish you well. They’re trying to add another ‘flower’ — a sense of guilt — to the whole bouquet of your emotional traumas and experiences.
After everything said to you in this manner, you will definitely have a question: is there really room for heroism in my lonely life? And your heroism lies in admitting to yourself honestly: yes, I have a problem. I can’t do what comes easily and naturally to others: fall in love, start a relationship, get married, have and raise children.
Your main feat in your life is to understand the reasons for your loneliness and find a way out of it. Make an effort to have one less lonely woman in the world, and one more happy one. When you solve this problem and become a married woman, all the clouds over you will disappear in an instant.
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