In our lives, there are colossal things that you only come to understand through your own experience. And often, it’s not at all what you and the people around you believed so fervently. This is well portrayed, for example, in Chuck Palahniuk’s bestseller ‘Fight Club’ or in the sensational series ‘Mr. Robot.’
AdmiGram.com will tell you about what young people regret terribly, not grasping certain important life truths a bit earlier. This won’t instantly, completely, and forever rid you of your problems, but at least it will help you stand firmer on your feet and remain a more balanced individual.
Rules of youth to be a little happier
If you don’t like something — change it
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We are often told: ‘You have to go through this’ or ‘Everything will settle down.’ This is because people think that after some time, the Universe will inevitably know that they are sad and will do something about it. Unfortunately, the universe doesn’t know anything about you at all—it might not even have consciousness. And even if it did? You’re just a speck of flesh and blood standing on a pile of dirt among billions of other squirming specks.
It sounds harsh, but you can’t expect everything to just magically change on its own—why should it? Name at least one reason. Of course, abruptly quitting your terrible job, moving somewhere to the beautiful north, ending your futile relationships devoid of any trace of love—doing all that overnight isn’t very sensible: don’t turn your life upside down in 24 hours. Try to make small decisions that will make you happier in the long run.
You are not your job; stop caring about your social status
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Jobs are tough these days. Probably, they’ve always been tough, but we didn’t live in the past, so we don’t exactly know how it was. Getting a cool job is difficult, and even getting a fairly decent one is tough. Therefore, everyone who manages it sees that achievement as something admirable. No problems there, except for one: constantly comparing your situation with others’ successes is not the healthiest pursuit for your self-esteem. It won’t inspire competition within you—more likely, it’ll completely rob you of motivation.
Fancying success incessantly is undeniably bad. Besides, success doesn’t necessarily have to be related to your job. If you convince yourself that your career defines your entire life, you’ll inevitably start worrying that you’re not fulfilling your full potential. Having a good job that pays well is important—at least for most people—but it’s not the only important thing in the world.
Fitness isn’t about selfies on social media: do it because it’s beneficial
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In a world where people are in a rush to capture their six-pack abs or firm thighs reflected in the gym mirror, it might seem that physical exercise is a beauty contest among the chosen few. However, exercise is something else entirely. You should strive for yourself, not for likes on Instagram. When you understand that, you’ll change.
Because fitness is, at the very least, self-realization, health, and an excellent way to alleviate stress. It’s about channeling stress-induced adrenaline into something constructive instead of just building up tension inside you. Even a simple morning or evening run can ‘wash away’ all the negativity that accumulated over a couple of tough days in life.
Don’t worry about inefficiently using your free time
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Never underestimate the importance of absolutely doing nothing. Too often, we try to spend our free time as efficiently as possible, extracting the maximum from it and not wasting a second. You don’t have to do that. Don’t blame yourself if you’re not busy every second of your life doing something productive, creating something, or making unforgettable memories about something.
Seriously. On some days, it’s okay to be lazy—lie down, sit around, read, binge-watch a dance show. It doesn’t matter how much you love your job or how incapable you are of switching off thoughts about it—just allow yourself to relax, set everything aside, and sometimes just be lazy. Trust us, you’re allowed, and it’s pretty cool.
Healthy eating is good, but sometimes giving in is even better
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When people present different dietary recommendations, they all seem like some sort of monastic vow or even a punishment: you must give up the pleasures of the flesh, stop eating everything you love, and instead stick to salads. But if you eat nothing but greens, does that automatically make you happier? Right?
If you embark on a diet consisting solely of chia seeds, apples, and yogurt, you won’t become happier. Sometimes, you need things that your hand naturally reaches for at the store. Like chocolate, which stimulates the release of neurotransmitters that help reduce stress. Or coffee, because it perks you up and has a fantastic aroma. Let’s finally stop pretending to be superheroes!
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