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My father visited me over the weekend. Spending those few days with him made me realize some incredibly important things. It’s a pity we often only understand what our parents tried to teach us about life when it’s already too late. I felt so ashamed for not grasping it back then.
I remember how, during my childhood, he earnestly tried to pass down his knowledge and skills. He would say, “Look, this is how you fix a carburetor, and this tool is what you need to repair a kitchen faucet…” Yet, all he got in response was my dismissive, “Leave me alone, Dad! I don’t have time for this!” And I wasn’t the only one acting that way during my school years, was I?
5 Times My Father Was Right
Always Have a Backup Plan
I recall his words when he lost his job but had his own side business — a car repair shop where he fixed vehicles for friends in his spare time. That kept us afloat until he found a new job. Back then, I thought working in a garage was lowly and dirty. I believed I would never stoop to that level. But I was wrong; things got even worse for me during the 2008 crisis and the COVID-19 pandemic.
Love Is Not Just Passion; It’s Something Entirely Different
When my father used to hold our family up as an example of a successful marriage, I used to laugh. What love really is — or rather, what its absence feels like — I only understood at forty, after my second divorce. When the passion fades, nothing is left but misunderstanding, animosity, and resentment. I would give anything now to meet someone who just understands me and wants to build a life together. But the right people have already found their partners while I was busy looking the other way.
Don’t Give Yourself Entirely to Work
When you’re 20, or even 30, it feels like you can earn all the money in the world. But the more you give yourself to your job, the faster you burn out. When you’re young, it’s barely noticeable, but once you cross 35, your body starts reminding you of it with gastritis, high blood pressure, and chronic back pain. And that’s nothing compared to the time you lost — time you could have spent with your children.
Your Problems Are Challenges, Not the End of the World
Things don’t always go as planned, and that’s fine. It’s important to learn from failures and keep moving forward. It’s a pity that this realization only comes with experience. Playing the blame game, getting angry at circumstances, and wanting to set the world on fire ultimately achieves nothing. It’s just wasted time that could have been used to solve the problem.
Be Who You Truly Are, Not Who You Want Others to See
The biggest trap for any man is spending his whole life trying to prove to himself and others that he is someone he’s not. It’s incredibly destructive. As a result, you become a pathetic copy of someone you’ll never be, while losing the wonderful person you actually could have been. The sooner you realize this, the easier and happier your life will be.
